When you hear the word “self-love”, what comes to your mind?
Spending a full day at the spa or reading some self-love books, isn’t it? Self-love is much more than that; it’s all about trusting yourself, sorting boundaries and having an overall deep connection with yourself. It is about loving yourself in and out. As the popular saying goes: If you don’t love yourself, why would someone else? Think about this: You are the only person you get to spend your whole life with. Please, show yourself some love.
Why do you need to love yourself?
Self-love is considered taboo in many cultures even in 2024. People are quick to judge and gossip about anyone sitting with oneself at a restaurant. News flash! you have the right to enjoy your company. Here’s why:
- To free yourself from others’ opinions:
Society will always put you down and tell you that you aren’t good enough. But please stop trying to live up to others’ expectations. Why do you compare yourself to someone else? When you do that, you set yourself up to fail.
Social media does tend to make us compare. Scrolling through Instagram seeing people’s life does make you question yours. But you don’t know their problems and struggles through photographs. Everyone has their set of problems and issues. You will be happy when you accept that the grass is greener on your side and no one else’s.
- To accept yourself:
Self-love will help you change your outlook about yourself. You need to accept yourself just the way you are. Your value doesn’t lie in the kind of body you have. Love your body, it is getting you through a pandemic right now.
When you show yourself some love, it will be easier for you to accept your flaws and forgive yourself. Don’t be too harsh on yourself when you make any mistake. Allow yourself to make mistakes, everyone makes them. Be kind to yourself. The past year has taught us that everyone except you can leave you. You need to forgive yourself through all the hardships you must have faced and accept that things will get better.
Even in the worst times, you deserve to be loved.
- To radiate confidence:
Have you been attracted to someone’s confidence? Why do you think they are confident in themselves? Do you also want to walk into a room with confidence? Then you need to love yourself inside and out. Love and stand for your opinions, your values and your beliefs. Never criticize yourself. If you want to ooze confidence, then you need to work on loving yourself. Self-love is not an emotion; it is a journey and constant work. Self-love will help you increase your confidence only when you accept the person you are and accept each part of you inside and out.
- To spread the love:
Everyone needs love and compassion. When you show yourself kindness and love it will start radiating out of you. You will have more than enough to share with the people around you. We need a little more kindness in this world. But like everything it has to start with yourself.
- To take charge of your mental health:
Self-love is the key to mental well-being. It will help to keep depression, stress and anxiety at bay. With the Covid-19 pandemic forcing us to at times be cooped up in our homes. It has increased depression, anxiety and stress. We are working longer hours, competing with everyone, getting less sleep every day.
Self-love is a necessity now more than ever. It’s for everyone, it’s not gender, or age biased. It is about putting yourself first and not being too hard on yourself, which doesn’t make you a selfish person. Only YOU can control your happiness and that depends on how you see yourself. Don’t expect validation from others. It’s nice to get a compliment from people you love but don’t feed off of it. Learn to compliment yourself instead. When you don’t love yourself or put yourself last, you trigger anxiety and stress. You can live a healthy, happy, and fulfilling life by choosing to love yourself unapologetically. Release the guilt that is holding you back from being happy. Remember, the key to a happier life is loving yourself.
As seen in Issue 6 of GEEMS.